Date #13 - Daryl

He's a video game designer from our mortal enemy: Neversoft.  They make Guitar Hero.  Long live Rock Band!!  He also has 38 years to his age, 4th generation Japanese (so unfortunately doesn't speak a lick of it) and seems like an all-around-averagely-nice guy.  He didn't seem like a psycho and seemed to spell pretty well, so I decided to give this a shot.

We met at Unurban in Santa Monica, a really funky coffee shop with old school ripped-out theater seats, random mismatched furniture like purple tables with rose wallpaper coverings and just overall odd decor.  It was cool.

I got there and he had just ordered an iced chai frappucino.  I tell him to go find a seat and I too order one.  He offers me the "good" seat, a tall white wood-backed chair with a flower seat cushion, while he takes the 4-legged stool.  Polite.

Pros

• Very nice guy.  Probably couldn't say mean things to people.
  
• He looks quite young for 38.  Would age well.
• Not bad looking.  Kinda emo-ish hair, but it's acceptable.
• Attentive about my needs.  I was sitting in the sun and he asked me if it was too warm and if we should move.  I told him thanks but I like the sun!
• Pretty open.  He asked me how things are going on match, and I told him not bad, I've been going on 2nd dates a few times.  He told me about his disaster dates which was kinda funny but cool in that he was able to talk about it with me.
• He kept saying nice things about me.  How different I was from all the other girls on match, how indepedent I was, how open-minded I was.  ;)  Oh stop!
• Lives alone.  Yay!

Cons

• Nervous around me!  He would get stuck on saying certain things once in a while.  Mind you, our meeting was 1.2 hours long.
• A little bit unoriginal.  He would ask ridiculoulsy generic questions, such as "so what do you like to do in your spare time?"  *Finger down throat*  Boring!
• A little too quiet and soft spoken.  Have a bit more confidence when you speak!
• No spark.  :(  At least from my end.
• No pizzazz.  Just wasn't charming enough for me!

I could tell this guy really liked me though.  When we parted ways in front of the coffee shop, me being stupidly nice person again said, maybe we can have coffee another time.  FUCK FUCK FUCK!  I didn't want to but my tongue took over and decided to play nice again godammnit.  And he was eager to say yes.

I get home and I get a text from him asking, "What's worse, texting and driving or talking with no handset?  I respond back selecting the former and he calls me.

Daryl: "I got off the freeway because there's so much traffic.  What are you up to Lily?"

Me: "I'm restocking my toilet paper under my sink."

Daryl: "Really?  Hahaha cool.  So what are your plans for the rest of the evening?"

Me: "Just gonna run some errands and stuff.  You?"
Daryl: "Well....um.........."

*PAUSE FOR ABOUT 5000 SECONDS*

Daryl: "Do you want to hang out?"

I nearly died.  It was so awkward.  But I recovered well.

Me: "Oh, well, my place is in shambles so there's no way I could invite you over here.  And I'd invite you to go run errands with me but my errands are kinda weird, so I don't think I should bring you on those!  Hahahahah!"

Daryl: "Oh, okay then."
Me: "Good luck on your drive back!"

Daryl: "Okay, bye!"

Oh my god.  So, so embarssing.  Fuck!  And I haven't heard from him since so I think I made him feel bad.  Goddamnit.

I should let him know I didn't feel the connection.  :(  But I should be up front and honest about it, right??